The Problem Solver : Be a good Listener and Reader

Be a good Listener and Reader

Some people have an incessant need to talk, most of us actually, while we only have a handful of good listeners…but ever wondered who does that listener talk to? Who listens to him? he can have his monday blues too or he can be feeling a little low too…why is it that when you take great pain to explain how much pain you are in then people somehow devalue your problem? Seemingly they have a hard time believing that you can be in that great pain, because if you were, you would be more busy suffering from it than actually talking about it…why is your own version of your own problem always thought of as an exaggeration? And why cannot anyone just listen to you?? You have listened to what people had to say wholeheartedly more than you would have liked…placing yourself in their position and responding earnestly and yet logically rather than dismissing with nonchalant comments like “Uhmm,” “Ok” or “I agree” and then jumping in too soon to cut you off and start talking again! Why does every medium of communication come with a barrier??

You try and talk to your friend, they are too keen to feed you with advises than listen to you, you go to a guy friend and he is too eager to find you a solution ignoring the emotional aspect of your talk, you go to a therapist and he redirects the

Barisan Kata Bermakna Menuju Garis Lini Kebaikan

Sepucuk surat terbungkus amplop putih sederhana dari Bunda yang berisi ribuan kata-kata bermakna kasih sayang akhirnya sampai di hadapku empat hari menjelang Bulan Suci Ramadhan 1431 H. Surat yang begitu sederhana namun mampu berbicara apa adanya. Aku sadar surat itu dibuat di sela-sela kesibukan beliau. Aneh juga mungkin bagi sebagian sahabatku yang ku ceritakan tentang hal surat-menyurat, namun aku tersenyum saja. Mereka sedikit bisa ku tebak, berpikir via SMS atau telepon bisa saja tidak perlu repot menulis surat, apalagi saat ini teknologi komunikasi mau seperti apa. Sebelum Aku di sini Bunda, tak pernah setengah hati untuk kebaikan. Lebaran di kampung halaman tempat ku dibesarkan Kelayu dan Kembang Sari membuatku selalu rindu dengan suasana masyarakatnya terutama di bulan Ramadhan dan Hari Besar Islam lainnya. Masakan buatan Bunda dan Nenek yang bernama Urap-Urap ditambah Pelecing Kangkung, Sayur

Libri di Luca

Libri di Luca book cover

Two years ago I’ve visited one of My fave book store in downtown of Yogyakarta and I bought a best novel it was “Libri di Luca”. It was Indonesian Edition, coz in Danish edition the title was “The Library of Shadows”. It was tranlated in seven languages. Mikkel Birkegaard was the author of this novel, He was Dane and was born in 1968. Now he lives in Kopenhagen, Denmark. Libri di Luca was his first novel wich was sold out 10.000 copies in just three days, I thought it’s really funtastic.

It was storied about Bibliophile (like book lovers) secret

The Best of I Ever Had Mother

Hello everybody out there. I’ve story about the one of my favourite song with my life journey. Ummm…I loved Enya’s single, it’s May it Be. I remember it’s on July 2006 when I started college in Yogyakarta I found this song on the one of the Lord of the Rings movie original sound track. Afterwards it composed by Irish musician Enya. So what does the special meaning like? Alright I tell you now. The song gave Me many memories of time about my mother.

I think one of person I admire in my family is my mother. She’s now 45 years old. She’s a very well-respected member of our family. She’s a very determined woman, full of curiousities, she always speaks her mind, and even now that she’s in home all the time. Now she lives at an old people’s home, she’s still very forthright with her views. I think in some ways I’m like her but I try to be a little more diplomatic than she’s always been. It is been so long since I took the time to share from deep inside of me, when my mother always to know what I feel. I can stand alone more than usual. I know she hear me everytime, since the first time, she always seem understand. When I kept I can’t sleep and got sick because of the condition that disturb me. All around it’s no a way out, I tried and never felt that way before,